Anger management books will teach you several things to help manage as well as handle your anger. In this article, we focus on one aspect that is often presented to people who are learning how to manage their anger with the help of anger management books.
This tool I’m talking about here is the ability to understand the signs of anger and then be able to recognize them.
Identifying the signs of anger gives us several advantages:
- The first one is the conscious awareness that you are getting angry.
- Two is, knowing when to control your anger once you realize that you indeed are angry and the symptoms are just beginning to become apparent.
- Three is keeping you from feeling any regret once the anger has actually emerged and many more which you can discover by checking out an anger management book for yourself.
Here are the signs of anger for you to become aware of:
Flushing of the Face –
Intense emotions such as those brought on by anger cause our blood circulation to shoot up above the normal range. This results in flushing of the face. This is a clear sign that you’re on your way to triggering your alarm button. You do have the power to control this by maintaining your cool.
Don’t allow yourself to get carried away by your emotions. Angry people tend to become stronger as that massive amount of blood is coursing throughout your system so find a way to use it constructively. You actually do have the power to make the choice of using this strength for more productive activities instead of becoming destructive. So, take advantage of this and program yourself ahead of time to put this bottled up energy to good use.
Tension Builds Throughout Your Body –
Anger causes muscles to tighten and become quite tense. This is one sign that usually happens to all of us when we get anger and is one that can be easily identified. The solution is to find ways to stay relaxed such as loosening up your muscles, lowering your shoulders, taking a few slow, deep breaths and shaking off your body.
The absolute best tip is to keep your composure down by thinking calming thoughts like, “I remain calm and relaxed at all times no matter what is going on around me.” while, as suggested above, breathing in slowly and deeply. Activities such as these and others that can be easily obtained through anger management books will help you release tension and muscle tightening.
Clenched Fists –
The best indication that the tension is building to critical mass is through your hands. I have just discussed that when any of us experiences anger, we usually experience that all over feeling of the tightening of the muscles. And the very parts where you can see the evidence of this most prominently is in your hands.
Clenched hands is a clear sign of anger. Like previously suggested, use this as a clear indication that you definitely need to loosen up and relax. Just make sure at that point that you do whatever it takes to control yourself.
Clenched or Grinding Teeth –
Aside from the hands, you can notice that your jaws are tightening when you get angry. Since you can never solve anger with more anger, try to relax and little by little, try to extinguish the anger until you have released it more appropriately without causing damage to yourself or other people.
A Higher Voice Tone or Perhaps Just The Opposite –
Angry people tend to increase the level of their voice by several degrees. And the difficult part is that this can happen with or without knowing it. The contrary of this behavior is to give the cold shoulder and become completely silent. The purpose of either one of these tactics is to intimidate others which is harmful to your relationships either way you tend to handle the situation.
There is one thing about each of these that they all share in common. They’re all within your power to control. It just depends on your willingness to step up to the plate and put yourself in charge instead of allowing the anger to continue to control you.
If you think you are really angry, try to control yourself and tell yourself to calm down. As explained above breathing by inhaling deeply and exhaling fully will help you to relax.
Remember what we are all fond of saying to our children, “If you’re angry, try counting from one to ten.” Believe it or not, this technique actually works. But if you find that you’re not able to release it once you reach number ten, try counting again and use some of the other suggestions listed above.
The point is, keeping yourself in control makes it possible to express your anger appropriately. Think of the consequences of your actions and make measurable decisions and actions that you and those around you can live with happily. My final tip to you is to pick up a few good anger management books and learn more for yourself.